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How to Have More Freedom and Ease in Your Day

Work-Life Balance

More freedom and ease, please!

This is the answer I consistently get when I ask people what they want more of.

And to be clear, it’s ease they’re seeking, not for everything to be easy.

A seasoned business owner recently remarked, “I just want to walk, not run all day long.”

Can you relate? Holy smokes, I can.

As a business owner, there are so many things that you can do.

Shiny object syndrome is real.

And it fuels your exhaustion and fades your freedom.

As a 29+ year entrepreneur, I’ve certainly learned a thing or two. For some reason, it was often the hard way!

I hoped that if I just worked harder and pushed more, I could eventually get to the other side, create more balance, and finally experience freedom and ease.

In case you’re curious, hope is not a good strategy. (Ask me how I know.)

During my time prior to coaching, I was a caterer. It was a fun job that allowed me to be creative, travel around the state, and build a very successful boutique catering company.

Work-Life Balance

 

While I was successful, I was also working 10–12-hour days, often six days a week.

I was missing many of the activities my kids were participating in, things I cared about.

When my kids would come to me and ask me to do something with them, I’d tell them just 10-more minutes. When they wouldn’t come back and get me, I thought, “Score, I can get one more thing done.”

It took me a while, but I finally realized that I was NOT being the person I wanted to be.

My business was very successful, yet I was burnt-out, checked out, overwhelmed & exhausted, and at times, a bit prickly with the ones I loved.

 

It is possible to have both a thriving professional life AND a thriving personal life, simultaneously.

 

Both matter. Yet I think all of us have been on a journey at some point where deep down we know we’re sacrificing our physical health, our relationships, and mental health.

That was my journey.

I was working long hours and neglecting the people who meant the most to me.

And I had convinced myself I was doing it for them instead of to them.

As crazy as it sounds, I told myself that I was being present with my family even while my phone was in my hand when we were sitting on the couch. We were watching a movie “together,” and I was still in my inbox responding to clients.

Over the years as an entrepreneur, I’ve found that whenever I’m pushing, driving, and saying “YES” to more so I can finally “make it to the next level and just breathe,” it rarely happens. Even if it does, it comes at a cost.

In fact, that head down, shoulder in, masculine drive for more moved me further away from what I went into business for in the first place…to create more freedom, flexibility, and financial security.

That to-do list is like a fluffle of rabbits. It. Just. Keeps. Multiplying.

It’s time to build a business that will sustain the life you want to live, not consume it.

Interested in changing your To-Do list to a Success list so you can create more of what you want?

 

Here are 3 strategies to start moving you closer to the freedom and ease you desire:

 

Strategy #1: Pause for Freedom

Now, this may sound counterintuitive to you.

You’re probably thinking, “Lisa, for the love of Pete, I’m overwhelmed and exhausted just looking at my to-do list…and you want me to Pause?”

There’s some serious power in an intentional pause.

Not everything matters equally

We often experience overwhelm, stress, and exhaustion because we’re saying “YES” to something that seems like an opportunity in the moment. In reality, it’s a distraction dressed in the most clever of disguises.

If you’re not clear on what more freedom and ease in your day looks like, how will you invite more of it?

Pause and ponder this question:

What does more freedom and ease look like in my life?

**With specificity, not simply, “more time, a stacked retirement account, and someone to do the damn laundry for once.”

 

Strategy #2:  Prioritize Ease

Let’s be clear, when you’re saying “YES” to one thing, you’re saying “NO” to something else. There is always a tradeoff.

There are 24-hours in a day. That is non-negotiable.

You wake up, and there are all these things you could do, all these things you could have, and all these things you could know.

Which means you have to make choices about what you want and how you go about getting it.

Refer to Strategy #1 above, then ask yourself:

What do I want more of?

What do I want less of?

Then, put your MORE list in order of priority (what you want most at the top), and unapologetically move into action starting with #1.

 

Strategy #3: Structure = Freedom

The creative in you is probably cursing my name right now. It’s ok. I still love ya and completely understand.

Here’s the thing, when you have more structure, it will be easier to pause, prioritize, and intentionally invest your resources (time and financial) rather than spending them. Investing provides ROI.

Spending rarely does.

Pause, Prioritize, and then Ponder this:

If what I want is more of X, what’s one action I can take today to ensure that my calendar (and checkbook) reflect that? What’s one action that will structure my time around that priority?

 

Here’s a favorite quote of mine by Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, and author.

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space.

In that space is our power to choose our response.

In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

As I said earlier, there’s some serious power in an intentional pause. Choose your growth and freedom.

Need some help figuring out what more freedom and ease is for you? Set up a complimentary 20-minute call so I can support you, here.

 

 

 

How Lead Measures & Lag Measures Help Improve Productivity

Lead measures and lag measures. What are they, and how can they help improve your productivity?

Your lead measures are the specific ACTIONS you take to drive the lag measures, the RESULTS from your actions.

An easy example of this is, say you want to lose two pounds in one week.

The lead measures you choose to focus on are to move a minimum of 30-minutes and drink 32 ounces of water each day.

At the end of the week (when you step on the scale,) the lag measure tells you whether you achieved your goal or not.

Most people place their focus on the lag measure, the result in front of them.

The problem with this is, we can no longer change that number on the scale.

You’ll find the leverage is in focusing on the lead measure- the actions that determine your results.

When you do this, you’ll be more focused, effective, and productive so you can achieve success (whatever that is for you) in less time with less stress.

Opportunity vs. Distraction

Opportunity vs. distraction.

How do we discern between the two when something’s coming our way, and it looks really exciting?

The only way we can determine that is when we know what the goals are that we’re looking to achieve and the results we’re after.

We can then compare this exciting thing that’s in front of us and say this is a fantastic opportunity, but it’s a distraction in the long run.

Or we can look at and go eh, it’s definitely a distraction.

Only then, when we have clarity of goals and clarity of results that we’re looking for, do we align our choices more readily to see something that’s exciting but understand that it’s a distraction from our goals.

And see the opportunities as real opportunities; this is an opportunity, this is where I want to go, and the results of me investing my time and my resources into this activity will pull me closer to my goals.

If you’re struggling with ‘is something an opportunity,’ do I want to be doing it, or is it just a distraction? Slow down, look at your goals, the results you’re working so hard for. Will this opportunity that’s in front of you move you closer or is it 10 degrees off, and you’re going to wind up way away from where it is that you want to be?

Thermostat vs. Thermometer


Thermostat vs. Thermometer

What’s the difference between the two?

The thermostat sets the temperature. The thermometer reacts to the environment, fluctuating up and down.

I use this simple analogy when working with my clients.

If you’re struggling with your team, perhaps it’s conflicting communication styles that impact collaboration, productivity, or culture. Be the thermostat, set the temperature, mode, energy, and conversation instead of being a thermometer fluctuating with whatever the environment offers.

When you’re being the thermostat and influencing the environment rather than reacting, your team will be more likely to rise if you’re the one setting and emulating.

Use curiosity when you’re struggling. Are you a thermometer reacting to your environment and the people around you? Or are you setting the tone, energy, and expectations?

Be the person you want to be in creating a business and a life you want to live. Be the thermostat.

Doing vs. Not Doing


Doing VS. Not Doing.

Not doing something requires constant self-control.

When you want to change a behavior or habit, set and focus on a positively framed intention, NOT a negatively framed intention.

Often, when we’re working on changing behavior we want to stop, our attention is focused on what we don’t want – “I need to stop procrastinating” or “I have got to stop overeating.” This requires a significant amount of willpower and self-control.

When I’m working with clients, they can often rattle off a dozen things they don’t want yet struggle with naming precisely what they do want.

Has that ever happened to you? Here’s what I suggest:

Write your list of what you don’t want, and for each one, flip it.

Framing it positively draws you forward towards the change you want.

Framing it negatively, and there’s a resistance.

It all starts with clarity.